One hundred years of solitude

As the title of the post as well as the name of Gabriel Garcia Marquez's book says, solitude experienced can be for a short period as well as a long one. But one hundred years of solitude is impossible for some people. Personally I favour solitude over companionship. I have never had many friends nor did I socialize a lot...I was mostly a solitary being. I love being solitary. It feels like you are independent and free to think for yourself. You will not be influenced by anyone, save for the media. Some people hold the point of view that solitude encourages senility. But I beg to differ with that statement. Solitude is good, but one should not lose the ability to communicate with other beings.

What will happen if you have nothing to say?

There would definitely be numerous times in your life when you forgot what you had to say. Be it a speech or a recitation, one can recall those times. Most of the times we feel scared or embarrassed when we forget to say something. But what wuold happen if you had nothing to say? Would you try to speak or would you accept defeat and step down? Of course, these are the times when you have to make an official presentation or speech. But what if you had nothing to say to your friend or your special one? Does that mean that you have understood each other so much that you have nothing to talk about? In most of the cases the answer would be yes. But for such a situation to occur it would need a lot of emotional and mental closeness. The only way the answer to the question in the post can be derived is by looking deep inside yourself. Let your soul be the mirror of your life. But do remember that defeat and escape cannot be a permanent solution to any problem.

A change can mean so much sometimes...

As I listen to 'Kaise Mujhe' from Ghajini which describes how a man met a lady who changed his whole life, I reflect upon the changes that happen to us. Some happen so suddenly that we cannot take stock of what has happened and thereby lose our mental balance. It may be a loss of job, a break-up or even a lottery win - Changes can be good or bad. But most of the time they end up making our lives better. For example, my life has changed so much from last year to this year. At first I felt really low. I had lost my best friend. I was trusted by no one. I, who had been the good girl all the way. I felt that I was being thrust in a vortex where I could not come out from. But today, when I reflect upon those events, I realise I have gained more than what I have lost. I have gained the thought that my life is mine and no one else's and that I will not be dictated by anyone on how to live my life. I was a reserved person before, who depended on other people to speak for me. But now I have learnt to speak for myself. Most importantly I have learnt to accept my mistakes. Wherever I am now is because of myself and I am happy, actually very happy. Life has taught me its lessons at a young age(I am only 14). I have loved and lost. But I do not feel bad. Change was highly necessary in my life. But only after it came did I realise how important it had been for me to get out of the rut I had been living in. Now I feel free, I do things my Inner Child wishes to do. All this while my Other had curbed from relishing those magical moments. What I would like to say to the people out there is, Don't lose heart. Whenever change comes into your life it can be as calm as the river and as destructive as a tornado. Whatever might be the change we must accept it and learn how to live around that change.

Something to reflect upon...

Many of the people out there think that teenage age is the period when kids go haywire. They no longer prefer family over friends, no longer want to go shopping with their mothers. But this is not what the teenage period is all about. The integral part of teenage life is:experimentation. It can be both good as well as bad experimentation. Whatever kind of experimentation it might be, it provides a lot of experience. Experience which will take one a long way in life. As a teenager, one will learn about a valuable feeling-trust. Due to the many betrayals one experiences as a teenager, one will learn to differentiate between the true and the fair-weather friends. Usually when friends are put over family, parents tend to panic or some accept it as just a passing phase. But what is needed is not just panicking or brushing the issue off, but counselling the teens on the fine line which shouuld be drawn between friends and family as sometimes, one's own friends can be one's undoing. But cautioning the child too much would give an impression that the parent is trying to be too authoritative. Parents should understand that a teen's mind is growing to be like an adult's and of course perceptions will change. We should leave room for that change. All I say is, allow a child to grow like a plant:provide nutrients, water and expose it to enough sunlight, but when they pests come be prepared and drive them away without hurting the plant.